Too often we hear that a couple is breaking up because they “can't believe” how the other thinks and feels about something that is important to them. Why not ?

Did they spend all of your time planning a wedding and not planning a marriage? Couples will plan their nuptials down to the smallest detail. It's time to expend as much energy on the marriage. After all isn't that why we have the wedding?

 

Here are 100 questions to get you talking, reminiscing and hopefully, understanding each other more fully.

 

Many of these questions get to the heart of your belief system and core values. Asking these questions before you get married should open up discussion on important topics. Will he expect you to do all the housework, child-rearing, and handle the money? Will she expect you to raise your children in a different religion, or have social gatherings planned every weekend? Maybe you both answered yes but one of you isn't too happy about it. Talk now! Life will be so much easier later if you truly know who you are marrying.

 

 

1. How many animals will we have and what will they be?
2. Do you save the best for last or eat the best parts first?
3. Will our bed be made every morning?
4. Will you hold my hand when I'm throwing up?
5. What's your least favourite thing about yourself?
6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? 30 years?
7. Where do you see me in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? 30 years?
8. Where do you see us in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? 30 years?
9. How much time do you spend watching television?
10. Do you still have mementos/pictures of past relationships? Why? / Why not?
11. Can you kill or remove a spider from the bathroom?
12. Do you talk during the big game?
13. Have you ever stolen anything?
14. What's your favourite food?
15. How much time a week do you think you'll be spending with friends? (when I'm not there)
16. What's your best childhood memory?
17. What's the worst thing that happened to you in grade school?
18. Who hurt you before you met me?
19. Who did you hurt?
20. Are you a Mini van or SUV or sports car kind of person?
21. What age should people retire from work and how should couples prepare for it?
22. What's the maximum amount of money that should be spent on a pair of shoes?
23. Will we get married in a church/ which one?
24. What's your idea of a perfect day?
25. If you're really sick, do you go to the doctor?
26. Have you ever hit someone in anger?
27. What's the silliest thing you're afraid of?
28. What's your biggest fear?
29. Do you hang the towel up after a shower or put it in the wash?
30. Have you ever laughed until you cried?
31. Do you like your family?
32. Do you like my family?
33. What do you think about when you're still awake at 3 in the morning?
34. When you're playing solitaire, do you ever move just one card so you can win?
35. Which political ideology do you follow?
36. Do you vote?
37. What was your favourite breakfast cereal when you were a kid?
38. Why is your favourite relative your favourite?
39. What's the comfort food you can't live without?
40. When do you think you'll be a “grownup”?
41. Where do you go to think?
42. How much alone time do you need?
43. Does size matter? What if I put on 20lbs, 40lbs?
44. What's your best feature?
45. What's your dream vacation?
46. Can you separate colors when you're doing laundry?
47. Do you want children?
48. How many do you want? 0, 1, 6!
49. What's your secret vice?
50. Should we spend more time exploring the oceans or space?
51. When is it ok to lie?
52. Can my mom/dad/sis/bro/niece/nephew come live with us if they need to?
53. What time should dinner be eaten?
54. Who will care for our children? Will we both work fulltime/partime?
55. What birth control method will we use?
56. Who will handle the money?
57. How will we make major financial decisions, and who will make them?
58. Is there any alcoholism in your family, depression etc.?
59. How long can a pair of socks be on the floor before they have to be picked up?
60. Do you practice your religion, do you attend services?
61. Will one of us have to give up our religious beliefs system and accept our partners?
62. Will our children attend public school, religious school?
63. Will our families be all right with our plans, or will it get our marriage off on a bad footing?
64. What's your very first memory?
65. What was the first song you loved?
66. Where does a CD/DVD go when it leaves the player?
67. What will we do if there's a two or three day power outage?
68. Can I use your toothbrush?
69. Where do you see us living? City, rural, burbs…house, trailer, condo, apartment?
70. How will we divide chores?
71. Are you a neat freak or slob and could you accept living with one?
72. Are you a people person, solitary person?
73. When should a person give/receive flowers?
74. How often will we have sex?
75. What is the funniest movie ever made?
76. Should kids play organized sports?
77. On a long trip, which one of us will do the most driving?
78. What's the perfect paint color for a living room?
79. Is it all right to bring pornography into our home?
80. What was the last thing you bought on impulse?
81. What's your favourite nickname?
82. How social will our social life be? When you get home from work do you want to go out with friends, go for a walk/exercise, veg on the couch?
83. Do you drink too much?
84. What sports can't you live without and do I have to watch them with you?

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