Pressing
etiquette questions are keeping brides from enjoying the planning of their
special day! We get more questions related to etiquette than any subject
other than budget and we'd like to say that today, weddings are so varied
and the rules of etiquette that guided the very homogeneous weddings of
yesteryear are not nearly as binding today.
Today, we
have to combine blended families, religions, ethnicity's and pet attendants.
(sometimes all of these in the same wedding)
If your
most agonizing question is whether or not it's ok to use the phrase "the
honor of your presence..." in your outdoor wedding because an etiquette
book has stated that this phrase is only appropriate for church weddings....you
obviously haven't hit the real lows of wedding planning yet!
Recently,
I read a wedding etiquette book which said that all bridesmaids in a formal
wedding must wear formal gowns in the same style and color. They
showed a lovely side picture of 6 bridesmaids wearing the same perfect
size 2 dress! Nowhere did they address the bridal party which is comprised
of a size 4, 8, 18 & 24. I think that the unwritten etiquette rule
there is "All bridesmaids must fit perfectly into a size 2 dress to qualify
for a formal wedding"
An article
in one of the major bridal magazine recently gave explicit place card placement
guidelines. There wasn't one mention of uncles who shouldn't be seated
near the bar, cousins who shouldn't have been invited in the first place
and should be seated as far from the bride as possible, the girlfriend
of the best man who'll show up in a skirt that could be mistaken for a
belt and flirt with every man but hers making the best man so angry that
he'll forget his speech and spend the whole night growling at all the other
attendants....and last but not least, the myriad children who'll turn up
and need to be entertained by being dragged around on the bride's train
as she's dancing.
What we'd
really like to read in questions to Miss Bridal Manners are the real agonies
that are plaguing brides these days.
Dear Miss
Bridal Manners,
We need
help with our invitations!
We're having
our wedding under the golden arches,
followed
by a meal in the party choo-choo. We'd like
cash only
as gifts and our golden retrievers are hosting
the reception.
This is the brides 6th marriage and we'd like to know if it's appropriate
for her to be married in white and
which of
her names must be used on the invitations.
Sincerely,
Groom in Gotham
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